Asmi Aderay Isn’t Begging for Bare-Minimum Love on “Someone Real”

Let’s cut straight to it: modern dating is a circus, and a lot of people out here are clowns acting like they’re the main event. Asmi Aderay clearly got tired of the half-love, half-ghosting, half-effort era (yes, that’s too many halves, and that’s exactly the problem), so she wrote “Someone Real.” And honestly? It’s the anthem that every emotionally exhausted romantic needed yesterday.

This isn’t some flimsy, butterflies-and-brunch pop fluff. This song is for the people who are done pretending that “it’s not that deep” when it actually is. Asmi comes in with a voice that sounds like longing, clarity, and a little bit of “don’t play with me” all rolled into one. Adult Contemporary Pop meets Pop/Rock, but with a sharp edge, elegant, but absolutely fed up.

“Someone Real” basically says what a lot of us are afraid to admit: wanting genuine connection is not desperate, embarrassing, or old-fashioned. If anything, settling for the bare minimum is what’s embarrassing. Asmi’s vocals hit like an open diary entry from someone who refuses to be an optional extra in someone else’s life.

There’s vulnerability, sure, but it’s served with backbone. She’s not crying on the bathroom floor, texting paragraphs. She’s choosing herself. And in a world where a lot of people are addicted to almost-love, that’s revolutionary.

A recent Berklee College of Music graduate, Asmi Aderay, is no amateur. Her artistry is intentional, polished, and aimed right at the soft spots people try to hide. She sings for the romantics who still want to feel something, not just swipe something.

Her music is drenched in self-worth, heartbreak, and emotional honesty, and clearly, listeners are resonating. With features on Breaking Sound Radio and rising airplay, shares, and saves, “Someone Real” pulled 1.2K streams in its first two weeks. Not bad for someone doing love songs in a world allergic to sincerity.

If you’re tired of performative passion and people who want intimacy without accountability, this track hits home. Asmi Aderay is making music for grown feelings, not placeholder situationships, and thank God, because the bar has been underground.

“Someone Real” is proof that romance isn’t dead; it’s just waiting for people who don’t run from their own hearts. Stream it. Feel it. And if it hits too hard… maybe text a therapist before texting your ex.

Your quote draws a line between waiting for real love and self-respect. What moment in your life made you realize you were done accepting half-formed, half-present relationships?

I think those standards were in me from a young age - honestly, since I was about fifteen. But they solidified once I actually lived through situations that hurt more than they should’ve. I realized I was giving too much and receiving too little, and that imbalance made me shrink myself just to keep something alive. That’s when it hit me: I’m worth more than half-presence and half-efforts. I stopped lowering my guard for people who hadn’t earned it.

“Someone Real” doesn’t shame vulnerability; it defends it. Why do you think modern dating culture treats genuine emotion like a liability instead of a strength?

A big part of it is technology - especially social media. People are trained to fall in love with what they see, not who someone actually is. Everything is so visual and instant that real emotion feels “inconvenient”. I admit I fell for it myself, and in the process, hurt myself way more than I expected. I even gave dating apps a fair chance just to check, and it played out exactly how I expected: quick connections, rarely any depth. I always encourage people to be social in the real world, make friends, build something naturally, and let love grow from there. You can feel chemistry in one glance, sure - but fall for who they are, not the image.

You write for people who feel deeply in a world that rewards detachment. How do you protect your own heart while asking listeners to stay open with theirs?

My heart is open too - that’s why I can write the way I do. The important message is not to abandon love altogether. Feeling deeply is a strength. Whether it’s with friends, family, or a partner, that softness is what makes us resilient. The key is to stay open, but move with intention: don’t give your heart away recklessly, don’t lose yourself trying to prove your worth, and only invest in people who give that same love back. And if someone pulls away because they can’t match your heart, let them go. One day, you’ll be proud you protected yourself.

You’re a Berklee graduate with strong technical skills, but emotion leads your music. When you hit the studio, what wins: craft or instinct?

For me, they move together. My instinct guides the emotion, and my training shapes how that emotion becomes music. I don’t see them as a battle - more like a partnership. Whatever I create has a purpose behind it. And once the song is out, people feel it based on their own stories, not mine. That’s the magic of it.

Your song already has support from Breaking Sound Radio and early streaming traction. What does success look like for you beyond numbers? How do you know a song truly reached its people?

Success, for me, is the day I’m touring full-time - that’s my biggest purpose. But beyond that, I look at impact. How is the song moving through the world? Are people talking about it, sharing it, connecting with the emotions behind it? Radio play, social media reactions, messages from listeners - those things show me whether a song has truly found its people. When someone feels seen because of something I created, that’s success.